Is it a battle? Is it a game? A competition? Five young men in different colored attire raising their wands with energy and passion. No one looks to be injured but if wands were opinions we could hear the noise. When we are so engrossed in our individual expressions how can we hear what the other people have to say? For a civil society, what good can come from that? The message here is a support of diversity. When we are truly confident in our opinions we don’t feel threatened by differences and can allow for a frank and easy sharing. After all, the end game isn’t to get others to necessarily agree with your opinion but rather to have them hear you express it. They are free to make their own decisions as you are free to make yours.
Everybody has an opinion and each of us wants to be heard. But if we’re all talking at once we can’t be heard and we can’t hear others. It’s time to play like the grownups in the room. Free speech is only free if we act with civility. How about we agree to let each person speak. Then, even before the discourse begins, we won’t act in fear and feel the need to rush in and voice our expressions. We will go around the room in an orderly fashion confident in the knowledge that we will be heard and we will hear others. Conflict has no place in mindful expression. You can be true to your position and appreciate diversity. Who knows, you might learn something new or change your mind!
One of my favorite holiday traditions is attending a New Year’s Eve party where we participate in a ritual of letting go and letting in. After some time of mingling, drinking, eating and making merry, the hosts pass out little pieces of paper and pens and we are instructed to write on one side what we choose to let go of in the new year and on the other side what we choose to let in during the new year. Then we are instructed to place the piece of paper in a big copper bowl. The papers are mixed around and then the bowl is passed from one person to the next; we are sitting in a circle at this point. Each person picks out a piece of paper, reads out loud each side (in 2019 I choose to release…and in 2019 I choose to let in…). After reading the words out loud, we pass the paper back to the host who lights a flame and sends the intention into the air as the paper burns out in the bowl.
I’ve been doing some thinking as I ready myself for tonight’s festivities. This year I did a lot of letting go–some relationships that were no longer serving my higher purpose, patterns of behavior which blocked my spiritual growth. At the same time I let in some truly wonderful people, awesome practices such as tarot and crystals which helped me connect to my intuition and step onto the heart path. In keeping with these I decided to pull two cards for tonight’s intention. And here they are.
Tonight I will be letting go of intolerance, the critic and a combative nature and letting in heart, flow, compassion and acceptance. Blessings to all. And Happy New Year!